To kiss an empty cup
Hello and goodbye at the same time,
and place it down on the table,
The table that is hollow,
The floor beneath,
The basement too,
And the ‘idea’ of getting along long
enough to understand that we weren’t…
Some tubers I planted as a child,
Other times I simply kept them
in a secret place, waiting…
I hadn’t been introduced yet to the result
of humidity and air tight containers when
merged together as one resulting, indefinite
color of mold…
What else were we looking for when you said,
at the beginning, ‘You aren’t in love with me’ (?)
And when I was seeing, mainly with the passions,
my deeds towards your body, mind and spirit, proofs
of this, my will to love and to be, in the companionship
of our fierce heartbeats, though not necessarily touching
what was making them both beat so fast together, in
proximity’s being becoming?
All the planning, projects and processes…
I, and I that I am,
Not just a heavy laden springtime seed rack,
stood up in the middle of wintertime for the sake
of ‘There are no weeds to fight’ (?)
There is no doubt in my heart,
that there were times we stepped out of this mortal
coil called Heaven & Hell and truly played, not games,
and not other games people play…
Instead, our games, the ones that color-scribbled out of
ourselves as we lay exhausted from having taken care
of the innocent, the new-to-this-Earth-one who lay
sleeping, tossing and turning, sometimes yelling in the
night, through the two thick walls, for your embrace,
and for mine too, when your motherly instinct was safe
enough to let me go to him…
It would be easy to defer everything to that heavier
than the origin of gravity third party and say that
Fate and Destiny, one dual-faced being and still
called two separate things, brought us to move
through all of this, so to stand still and then say the
same thing over and over again, without resolution…
News Without Resolution is standing as an acceptable
‘answer’ on Earth; something so dense, that the very
street, who gives out to the bicycle-wheels a smooth
ease in delivering it, (rolled up like a temple scroll)
shivers and moans, as it slides in underneath so to
secure a street for the street…
It’s not easy though, to defer… Nothing below the
mind’s habitat is ever as convinced of personal truths as
what is sitting on the cage’s swing… Truth lingers and
conscience lives, as gold light does, in the color of our
laughter gotten and the cessation of joy too…
Yes, there was a point where we became too much
for the sake of becoming and not having arrived long
ago at Love’s two distinct footprints…
One imprint can be found on the inside of the doorway,
a wet bare splash release upon the oak floor, as if just
out of the bath…
The other indention is underneath the shoe
and sock, left stuck in the mud at the threshold…
When I asked, ‘How is it that Love only
has one print?’ My conscience responded,
‘There’s no time to explain these details,
just that we hopped here on our own…’
If you feel that your lover needs some coaxing, go for the coy French kiss. The mellow breathing suggests a little warm up. Let the tip of your tongue lick his upper lip. Follow this by kissing him softly with no tongue involved. Teasingly taste his bottom lip them playfully brush your lips back and forth, up and down. Look at him seductively straight into his eyes. Eyes say a lot about what we feel and what we want. A sexy gaze can instantly arouse you to heightened levels. Add bits of moaning and a little panting to compliment your efforts. Easily slip your tongue between his parting lips. Continued coaxing will eventually lead to the lusty French kiss. Enjoy your French kiss while you are miles away from France.
Kissing is a very romantic gesture of affection which is more intimate than any other sexual act. You do not have to be in Paris France to learn how to French kiss. Even while in Paris, Texas you can still learn the mouth-to-mouth art of French kissing. Add to your lips a French flavor and kiss like a real soul mate. To kiss passionately you need to know the secret behind good timing. If you know when to go full-throated for the kill you will really get the kill but if you do the wrong timing, you will certainly miss it. To time correctly, pay close attention to your lover’s pace of breathing. If he is breathless and panting like an animal go straight for him. This calls for the lusty French kiss.
If your lover’s breathing is calm, relaxed and predictable, you have got some coaxing to do. Coy French kiss is most appropriate. The first thing to understand while learning how to French kiss is, every woman has her own different style of kissing. It all depends with the unique combination of your mouth’s anatomy. How wide you can stretch your jaws open, the length and width of your tongue and the height of sexual aggression and individual tastes. The mechanism applied is similar with any other type of kissing. All you have to do is tilt the head to one side, make your lips part, slowly ease your tongue into your lover’s parting lips.
The technique involved in a French kiss are divided into two. The two techniques are employed depending on how ready your lover is. If the panting suggests that he can’t wait to feel your lips, go for the lusty French kiss. This kind of French kiss doesn’t need any warm up. You are badly wanted by your lover and you want him as evidenced by your heavy breathing. Swiftly roll your tongue in circle’s around your lover’s mouth. This should be lusty thrusting. First do it shallowly then go deep. There should be coordination between the two mouths. Tilt your head to the other side and enjoy a repeat of the same. While at it you can as well bite his lower lip playfully. Lick his lower lip add a real French sensation.
It’s important when you start to learn how to kiss good that you identify all the embarrassing things to avoid! Don’t let your next kiss become an experience that haunts you forever. Make it your goal to follow all the kissing advice you need so that you can avoid the pitfalls and slip-ups that can jeopardize your chances of dating the girl of your dreams and becoming the best kisser she’s ever had. I guarantee if you follow the right kissing advice you will learn not only how to kiss good but how to be a truly memorable kisser that they will remember forever.
There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to learning how to kiss good. Let me say at the start if you enjoy kissing whole heartedly with a lot of passion and feeling most of the hard work is done for you. All that’s left is learning a few kissing tips or kissing techniques that will have your love interest thinking you’re the best kisser they’ve ever had.
Some people find kissing is the easy part. Making your move is the nerve-wracking part. You probably remember watching Happy Days and seeing all the moves those guys used to make to lock lips with girls.
The fundamentals of learning how to kiss good are experimentation, imagination, kindness, preparation, respect, communication, and very importantly confidence. Build your confidence by thinking that kissing is the natural way that you express how you feel about your love interest. There is no confidence booster like having knowledge. When you truly feel in yourself that you do know how to not only kiss good but sizzle at it, your confidence will carry forward with your kissing.
It’s also absolutely critical before you even think about kissing anyone that you do not have bad breath, you don’t have a rough beard, you don’t have body odour and that you’re not about to pounce on her like an octopus.
Here is the classic kissing move. A great place to try this one out is at the movies or whenever the moment is right and you are sitting next to one another.
Put your arm around her shoulder. Watch her body language and see how she reacts to his.
If she snuggles into you or rests her shoulder on you just enjoy the moment for a few minutes. Next thing to do is put your fingers under her chin with your free hand that is not around her and gently tilt her head up so she is looking at you.
In order to learn how to kiss good you need to practice. If you have never kissed anyone before or have had little practice you know you get just one chance. Blow it and they may never think of you romantically again! That’s why it’s absolutely critical that you learn how to kiss good as soon as possible, to avoid any embarrassment and humiliation.
Anyone can become a great kisser, provided they follow the right kissing techniques, tips and kissing advice from people who are qualified to give it.
In order to kiss good you need to be aware of how your love interest is feeling about you and your kiss. When your two lips meet keep them slightly parted and press very gently against the other person’s lips. Make sure you don’t bump noses (but if you do just laugh) by tilting your head slightly to one side.
Kissing is a lot like dancing. Your lips and tongues move with one another at the same pace in the same style. Just like dancing, you are following one another’s lead. You should be aware of how comfortable the girl feels with your kiss.
Once you have start to kiss one of you will slip your tongue into the other person’s mouth. Whatever you do, don’t make your tongue disappear back into your mouth like a startled turtle; and don’t let your tongue just sit there either. Move it around their tongue, gently suck on their tongue, chase one another’s tongues around their mouths. This is what will make the difference between knowing that you kiss good and being a shocking kisser.
Start soft- The best way to kiss a girl is to always start soft and build up slowly. Start with a light warm touch on her lips and read her reactions. Make it a point to choose a side before you start so that your noses don’t wrestle. When you feel you have made a good enough start put your hand gently on her neck and convert it into a deep passionate kiss.
Check her mood- What sort of a mood is she in? A girl’s moods have a big role to play when it comes to kissing her and getting the same response from her. Remember you should never kiss her when she is in the wrong mood as that might spoil your chances completely with her. The best way to check her mood is to get a bit closer to her face and read her reactions. If she is comfortable with you being close to her than she is in the perfect mood and is ready to be kissed whereas if she looks in another direction and pulls away than her mood is not right at the moment.
Is she ready? – The very first thing you need to consider before kissing a girl is whether she is ready to be kissed or not. You should never kiss a girl unless you get a green signal from her end. You would always get the signs and signals from her end as and when she is ready to be kissed therefore make it a point to wait for that perfect moment.
So how to kiss a girl? Well there are several ways to do it but unless you apply the right technique you would never be a good kisser. Yes kissing a girl is an art as well and based on the way you kiss girls they judge you how good or bad you are. In order to effectively kiss a girl you need to set the right mood and your timing has to be perfect as well. In order to get the timing perfect you need to know whether the girl is ready to be kissed or not. Read on to discover some of the most effective techniques on how to kiss a girl and achieve stunning results.
This article is only for those husbands who want to know how to kiss their wife in a way that gets her sexual juices flowing. And, if getting your wife’s sexual juices flowing is something that appeals to you, then you need to know how to give your wife a SEXUAL KISS.
We usually learn about the power, the magic, the effect of a kiss as children. It’s likely that there was a time when “Mommy” kissed your “owweeee” or your “boo-boo” and there was just something about that kiss that took all the pain away and made everything better.
But beyond this, kissing was probably something that was more or less “gross” until one day…a day you’re unlikely to ever forget…a day that brought excitement to you like you’d never experienced before – that girl you had such a crush on, you finally finagled everything around to where you could kiss her…and you kissed her.
The result was something that was so powerful to you that you could hardly explain it. All you knew was that it was something you replayed in your mind again and again and every time it was just as exciting as when you actually gave that girl the physical kiss.
So, as you think about that, you can begin to realize that a kiss can be way more than your lips physically touching some other person’s body. Your kiss can be something that’s so “charged” that when you deliver it to your wife it – when your kiss is just right, it causes her to:
• Become aware of exciting possibilities that she wasn’t thinking of before
• Access that erotic part of her being
• Notice exciting sensations that she wasn’t feeling before
• Create thoughts of romance and lovemaking
• Anticipate feelings of pleasure, fulfillment, and satisfaction all derived from intimacy
All this can happen when you touch your lips on your wife in a certain way.
Now, plenty of wives complain that their husband’s doesn’t know how to kiss. When asked to describe their husband’s kiss, they say things like:
• He’s like kissing a frog.
• It’s like my Dad kissing me.
• He’s like a puppy dog lapping his tongue all over my face.
• There’s nothing in his kisses, they’re lifeless – there’s no feeling to them.
• He just “pecks” me and then he’s moving on – it’s so fast there’s no time to enjoy the kiss.
Obviously, these kinds of kisses are NOT going to get a woman sexually excited. So, let’s talk about a kiss that will…
First, realize that your objective is to kiss your wife in a way that causes her to feel a deep connection with YOU and the more intensely you’re able to stimulate that connection she feels with you, the more you’ll transport her into a world of pleasure where the only way SHE can reach closure is by engaging in the physical act of sex – WITH YOU!
As you keep this objective in mind, remember that it takes time to stimulate this connection with your wife so just drop yourself down into SLOW MOTION!
Second, understand that you must TOUCH your wife with your EYES before you ever touch her with your lips. Your eyes are a tool that you can use to stimulate the intensity of the connection your wife feels with you – and as such, you should ALWAYS use it.
I can’t emphasize how incredibly important and powerful this second step is. Your prolonged, LOVING, eye contact with your wife BYPASSES her conditioning and programming and TOUCHES her at a deep primal, instinctual level that triggers sexual response inside of her.
Part of the reason this happens is because it requires strength and confidence for a man to be able to look deep into someone else’s eyes and MAINTAIN that deep eye contact. As such, strong, loving eye contact SUBCONSCIOUSLY communicates DIRECTLY to a woman’s mind that you are in fact an attractive man who is worthy of her desire.
In contrast, a man who drops his gaze, who subverts his eyes, who cannot maintain eye contact communicates that he is weak – maybe even untrustworthy – and definitely not fit to be a mating partner.
So, think of it like this…your eyes are the first thing you use to INITIATE intimacy in your wife’s mind so that she feels the desire to INITIATE intimacy with you physically.
Third, WHILE you are TOUCHING your wife with your EYES, amplify the connection your wife feels with you even further by slightly tensing your hands and fingers so that they will feel firm and strong to the touch and then you TOUCH her GENTLY and LIGHTLY with your FINGERTIPS.
You can put your finger tips on her shoulders – as if you were stabilizing her. You can drape the palm of her hands across your fingertips. You can place your fingertips on the OUTSIDE of her elbows. Or, perhaps best of all, you can cup her face in your fingertips.
Fourth, while TOUCHING your wife with your EYES and FINGERTIPS, now ramp up the connection your wife feels – so that she’s starting to feel sparks – by TOUCHING her with your VOICE.
Say to her, “I’m going to kiss you – just because I WANT to kiss you…there’s just something about you…” Be sure and let your voice trail off on that last part.
Fifth, shift the focus of your eyes to your wife’s lips and begin to move your face SLOWLY towards hers – move just a couple of inches and then STOP – almost as if you were inspecting her lips. Then, relax and soften your own lips and continue moving closer until you’re able to slowly, gently, and lightly nibble your wife’s lower lip. Then pull back a few inches – as if you were doing another inspection – and just for a second or two – and then move back in and nibble her upper lip.
Now, up to this point, if your wife in any way tries to initiate a kiss of her own or tries to get into a more extensive kiss with you, gently but firmly push her face just out of reach of your lips with your hands and tell her, “Uh uh…I didn’t tell you that you could kiss me yet!” and then re-engage in completing the above steps.
Or, if along the way she says something like, “What?” or “What are you doing?” or “What’s going on?” then quietly whisper a “Shhh…” to her and continue moving through the steps.
Once you’ve completed the five steps above, then you’re ready to set off fireworks inside your wife…
Sixth, after having nibbled your wife’s upper lip in step five, pull your face back, look deep into your wife’s eyes and say to her quite directly and emphatically, “You excite me!”
Next, let a sly smile ease onto your face and say to your wife in a slightly teasing way, “Now, YOU kiss ME – and you better make it good – because if you don’t, I’m going to paddle your sexy little butt and make you start over!”
Then, using your fingertips, GENTLY pull her face towards yours so she knows she can now kiss you.
Now, if your wife takes off with an AWESOME kiss, then just let her lead – let her do her thing and follow her lead for a while.
If she gives you a brief kiss and then pulls back, then reach behind her with your hand, give her a light spat on the butt and tell her, “I didn’t say you could quit. Get back up here and kiss me…” and gently pull her towards you (ABSOLUTELY NEVER USE FORCE) to re initiate her kissing you.
Ok, at this point, I’m going to leave what happens next up to you and your wife. But, don’t be surprised if your wife’s face is slightly flushed with excitement. Don’t be surprised if she’s breathing differently. Don’t be surprised if she drags you off to the bedroom right then and there. And if she does, don’t be surprised if she reaches orgasm incredibly quickly and powerfully. And, don’t be surprised when in the days ahead – maybe even the weeks ahead – she makes comments about and references to you having kissed her…
SPECIAL NOTE: The above process is based on an assumption that you and your wife have a reasonably harmonious relationship. If however, your wife is emotionally and/or sexually estranged from you, then that needs to be fixed before you try giving your wife this SEXUAL KISS.
Once you’ve solved the environment issue and you find yourself in a comfortable place free from loud music, the next thing to do is to make sure that you make eye contact with the girl and sustain it. It’s all in the eyes and when you see it, you’ll know. The next step is to move in closer and cut out on the “personal space”, if she’s comfortable with you in her zone, then she’s comfortable with you moving in for the kill, if she resists your attempts to invade her personal space, then you should know she’s either not feeling it at the moment or not feeling it at all. Remember, knowing how to kiss a girl is primarily about the environment, the moment, the eye contact and closing in on personal space. The rest is easy, you should also remember to slow things down and not break eye contact while moving in for the prize.
Finding out when and how to kiss a girl, is often a difficult thing for most men. We’re not taking of how to kiss as if you’ve never done it before. We’re talking of kissing, when you’ve been with a girl for a while and you want to know whether its permissible for you to take it to the next level. Some people simply don’t know when they can attempt it, some do it in the wrong instances and some don’t do it at all and miss the opportunity and because girls are used to being on the receiving end and not the giving end, and most won’t bother jumping the gun to help you out by kissing you first.
One part of the problem with how to kiss a girl, is the fact that most guys don’t know when to move things to the next level when they start getting signals that the girl is ready to play on another level. Some people simply don’t know how to recognize the signals and others simply lack the stones to go in for the kill and do what’s right.
The whole trick to it, is to learn how to kiss a girl without having to say anything about it or feel awkward before and after. To do this, you have to make sure its done in the right place without unnecessary interruptions, this is for various reasons. One of such reasons might be that the girl might not be comfortable with overt displays of affection in public places and she might not respond favorably to your advances.
Keep your lips wet- It’s always good to wet your lips while you are staring at her lips so that she gets a strong indication of what you mean and what you are looking for. Remember no one likes kissing dry chapped lips therefore make sure you use a lip balm or some other male cosmetic for lips.
Make sure she likes you- Why would a girl ever kiss you if she thinks you’re a jerk? Well the very first thing you need to keep in mind is that she is attracted enough towards you that she would not mind kissing you. Therefore if she does not like you yet than you first need to work on this aspect of the game and than move on to the next.
Look at her lips- The very next step while you are staring at her is to look at her lips and let her know that you are looking at her lips and thinking about getting a kiss from her. You see once she gets an indication from you she would be more than willing to kiss you too.
Make perfect eye contact- The next step is to make perfect eye contact with her and make her feel that you are real confident about yourself. Make sure you don’t look around too much and stare right into her eyes.
So how can you get a girl to kiss you? Well in most cases guys tend to make the first move but what if you could get the girl to make the first move and get desperate to kiss you? Seems impossible isn’t it? But the fact is there are several guys out there who know how it works and can get almost any and every girl to kiss them at will. Read on to discover some of the most stunning facts on how to make a girl want to kiss you and achieve earth shattering results within no time.